Friday, April 29, 2016

Slowly Remerging

Hello my blogging buddies. I hope you've all been doing well and those of you that are participating in the A-Z Challenge aren't too exhausted and have been having lots of fun and made plenty of new connections.

I've had a rough few weeks so needed to take a break from the blogging world and do some self-care. My migraines got a bit out of hand and work was slammed. I was exhausted by the time I got home and didn't have the energy to blog. I'm just now beginning to feel like myself again and ready to remerge from the cocoon of my comfy chair.

Thankfully, the recent increase in migraines coincided with a visit to my migraine specialist so she hooked me up with a round of powerful steroids, an increase in my botox injections, and an adjustment to my migraine preventative, so I'm hopeful things are headed in the right direction once again.

On another positive note, my job will also be keep me an extra day through the rest of the year so...I think I'll have to keep my blogging schedule the way it is now. I'll post either on Fridays or over the weekend. No more Monday posts for this chick.

I saw this on Facebook a few weeks ago and it really resonated with me:


I felt it spoke volumes of truth about marriage/partnership. No one in this world knows you the way your spouse or partner does. They see you at your best and they see you at your worst. If they are truly meant to be your partner in life, they will see you through the end and walk beside you through it all. They will not envy your achievements but share your joy. They will not judge your faults but help you find your way through to betterment. They will hold your hand while sitting beside you on the couch, walking through the mall, or sitting across from you at the dinner table...but most of all, they will lend a hand through life. 

So while marriage is not always beautiful, it is one of the most beautiful things that can happen to you when you've found the right person to share it with and I hope you all have or will soon because we all deserve it.

What is your favorite thing about marriage/partnership? What is your least favorite thing? If you're not with someone, what do you hope to find or avoid in a partner?



Friday, April 1, 2016

Casting Judgment

from Google        
        He’d been attending the same meeting for years. It’d almost become habitual. He’d pull into the parking lot, slide his small car into the same space closest to end, then walk the short distance to the red-bricked building. He’d enter the building, take a quick look at himself in the reflection of the glass of the church’s bulletin board to make sure his long hair wasn’t a complete mess, and then he’d find a seat near one of the small, slow-moving ceiling fans. The room got stuffy with so many people crammed in it. It seemed to get more crowded with each passing month. After a few minutes, he’d flip to a favorite passage in his green book and wait for the meeting to begin.
         Habitual. Almost. He made sure it didn’t become too much of a pattern, otherwise he’d fall victim to stagnation again. Been there done that, as they say. Got the slips to prove it. He glanced around the room and raised a hand at a few people he recognized.
         Wednesday church services were in full swing by the time the SAA meeting started. Sometimes they could hear the choir sing an upbeat song while the SerenityPrayer was read. Other nights, like tonight, it was easy to forget there was a church service in progress on the other side of the building. It was easy to contribute all those cars in the parking lot to the men and women seated in the chairs around him nodding their heads in agreement with what was being said by the person sharing.
         So, when there were a few moments of silence as people reflected over Jackie’s share, that’s exactly what Devin had done. Forgotten about the church service. Until he the reminder slapped him in the face moments later.
         He excused himself so he could use the rest room and headed out into the hallway. He came upon a group of men and women looking at the bulletin board he himself was looking at not long before.
         One of the women pointed a finger at a sheet of paper behind the glass and said, “I can see why they let the AA people in here, even the NA people, but those SAA men? They’re a bunch of perverts!”
         “I know! I called Pastor John but he refuses to listen. Bunch of child molesters is what they are!” said another woman.
         “It isn’t just men, you know,” said the man standing beside the two women, “I’ve seen women go in that side door too. It’s disgusting because you know they’ve got to have kids at home. What kind of mother’s must they be?”
         “It’s a disgrace,” said the last woman, “I think we should complain again. Get them out here. I don’t want them in the building the same time as us.”
         Devin’s heart sank at their words. He took a deep breath, and then let it out slowly as he walked past them and quietly opened the door to bathroom. Never had he been more grateful to have a lock on a door. He looked himself in the mirror and reminded himself that he wasn’t a monster. That these people didn’t know any better and that in their position he probably would have thought the same ignorant thoughts too. He couldn’t be mad at them.
         He needed to have understanding and compassion for them and hope that one day they would take the time to educate themselves on the people who sought refuge in their church rather than judge them.
         After a few minutes, Devin was calm enough to go back to the meeting again. He called his wife on the way home and shared what he had overheard and processed his feelings with her. She was proud of how he handled himself. He showed true recovery that day. He showed true empathy.

(inspired by true events)

        Have you ever judged someone to quickly?